Letting Go isn’t The Same as Giving up


When I make a goal, I hold on to it tight. I show up. I do whatever it takes to reach that goal. I push myself. Dig deep. Stay focused. Think like a boss. Stay motivated. And I push myself harder. I keep showing up. I don’t give up. Lose sight of. Or give in. No. I keep going until I get to my goal. Nothing can stop my determination. My perseverance. My tenacity. To be better. Than I was yesterday. Or the day before. To prove to myself I can do whatever I decide I want to do. No. Nothing can stop me. Well nothing, except maybe an injury.

Dried Leaf Heart

There is no amount of motivation. Staying focused. Determination. Perseverance. Or tenacity that is going to make my injury heal faster. I can’t push through it. Digging deep means staying positive. Giving in means letting go. And part of letting go means not punching that countdown to the right of my page, right square on its widget nose. Staying focused means being grateful for the painfully slow progress of healing my injury. And thinking like a boss means that I know letting go of my goal, isn’t the same as giving up.

Ivy Heart

Yesterday I went for an 8 mile run walk/run. And it just about did me in. My injury is not worse. No. My injury is and was just over-the-top f-ing mad at me. So I have decided I am not going to do my half marathon in 15 days. It’s not possible. Not because I couldn’t actually do it. Because I most likely could. But it wouldn’t be wise. And like most bets with an injury, it’s an unsafe bet. And I am not willing to bet I could do it on the future of my running.

Yellow Leaf Heart

So today I am loosening my grip on my goal. And slowly letting go. I know I have what it takes to get there when I make a new goal. There will be more races. More opportunities to show up. More opportunities to be better than I was yesterday. Or the day before. And more opportunities to prove to myself that I can do whatever I decide I want to do. But the truth is? Letting go of a goal is just as difficult as holding on tightly to a goal. I still have to show up and continue reminding myself that letting go is not the same as giving up.

Rose Petal Heart

Has letting go something ever felt like giving up to you?

Until next time, always be true to yourself and think like a boss!

Heart On a Tree


32 thoughts on “Letting Go isn’t The Same as Giving up

  1. Seriously, there are times when I could swear that you and I share the same mind, heart, and baby soul, as the theme of letting go when it comes to my goals and dreams has been rattling around in my head for the past week. I just returned from a long drive down River Road, and one of the prevailing thoughts was that letting go and allowing God, the universe, or whatever higher power there may be to safeguard the desires of my heart is the only thing I can do sometimes. It is the faith that I will reach the stated goal or surpass it, but failure is not an option. You’ve got this, BOSS!


    • I know right?! The similarities are mind-blowing. Oh heavens letting go, keeping the faith everything will be as its supposed to, all while staying positive is quite a challenge. I will take training for a half injury free, any day! 😉
      On a serious note though, letting go can sometimes be just what was needed to allow for the great stuff to happen or reveal itself. I do hope this week is better for you and you’ve got this too boss! ❤


      • Someone once told me that if you hold onto something so tightly in your hand that that the contents slip through your fingers, but if you loosen your grip, you won’t lose the contents. It’s a rather simplistic way of looking at the people, feelings, and things we cling to us, but in my more rationale moments, I know when I let go, everything ends being even better than I could have imagined. Sometimes, the letting go process is painful, but in the end, everything is okay. I just need the patience and faith to trust that!


      • Yes! I love it and that makes perfect sense! 🙂 You have all the faith, patience and more to get through the most difficult of times like a boss! And I am saying that to myself as well. Now just to silence “self-doubt”, heal and prepare myself for a new goal and starting graduate school! 🙂


  2. When you’re running in 16 days (instead of being completely sidelined for who knows how long thanks to the half), you’ll know you made the right decision. You ARE a boss for recognizing that. I’ve been known NOT to, and have also sidelined myself in the past. The saying “I’ve never regretted a workout” is true, but I’ve certainly tested it.
    Good for you — there are many more races to run, and because you’re smart you’ll be able to run ’em!


  3. Doing what you are doing is much harder (and wiser) than pushing through. In the end, you will achieve many more fitness goals by pulling back now. So amazing. Sometimes “thinking like a boss” is doing the very thing that you don’t want to do because it is the best thing to do!!!


  4. I think this is a wise decision….although I know how very difficult it must be!!! I’m struggling with the same thing and not sure I’ll be able to do my 1/2 either. Think of long term…which I know you are. You have a great perspective and that will allow you to hit your goal a little further down the road!!!


  5. There’s a Zen proverb, “Let go or be dragged”. I try to follow those words. Taking the hard right is always harder than the easy left.. I’m sorry you’re missing your race. I know it hurts, but as another famous saying goes , “you’ll heal to run another day”. Ok slightly improvised.


  6. It sounds like you made the right decision. And you’ve just tweaked your goal, not lost sight of it.

    I know what you mean about making a goal and sticking to it. I don’t make tons of ambitious goals, but when I make it, I’m 100% in it. But I also try to make the goal flexible enough to survive the curveballs life likes to throw in the way. Like you said, it’s not giving up, it’s rolling with the punches.


  7. I know you made the right decision. How do I know? Because the last time you didn’t listen to your body, it taught you a painful lesson. Don’t be a man like us, don’t do the same thing over and over , and expect a different result! 🙂


  8. Yup. Watching my husband leave on a trip to the boundary waters canoe area wilderness without me today, and knowing I may not be able to do my last Tri of the season in 5.5 weeks due to a shoulder injury.
    So I am training for a half. :-). Great post!


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  10. I think letting go is much harder than holding on. Kudos to you for knowing when to give up the goal. It’s not the end of the world. There will be plenty of other races. You’re being smart. Being stubborn is what gets us injured and takes us out for the long haul.


    • You are so right! And looking back at my go-getter stubborn, no giving up self a year ago, I would have done the race. There will be more races and this is just a minor setback in the grand scheme of things! 🙂


  11. What a great description of what it feels like to let go, while not giving up! Over a year ago, I was ready for my first triathlon, which I had dreamed of and trained for for over a year. That race would represent my making it through the struggles of another year of single motherhood (luckily those days are over now) and all the challenges that came with it. One week before the race, I contracted Mono (I am a school nurse and am constantly surrounded by illness). My doctor advised me it would be much too dangerous to participate due to the risk of my spleen being injured, not to mention the fact that I had ZERO energy. I had to face facts. He was right. It was heartbreaking. But I looked ahead after recovering, continued being active and training for the next race. And there have been many more races. A year later I competed in a triathlon, among many other races. Thank you so much for sharing your story!


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